笔趣阁中文

●Coming of Age（第1页）

●ingofAge

Traditionallyviewedas“ihdays，18and21arelandmarksinayoungpersourning18ismnifitheeyesofthelaw，mostnotablyallowinganindividualtobuyalcohol，a21stbirthdaywasalwaysheld，inyearsgohemostimportaone。

Nowadays，botharehdays。However，youshould“seleehdaypresentsaions。Itisuoexpectfamilyaogoextendtheirgewithreeyears。

&Parties

Many18thsand21stsarecelebratedily，aarentsandfamily。Someealoutwithfriendsorahepub;manyturning21st，asalreadybeingawayfromhome，prefertocelebrateintheiruies。

◇Itisalularmoveifpareohelpfinaioheyarehismaybetributingtowardsameal，a（limited）tabbehindabar。

&sshouldasktheirdaughterorsoemporarieshavecelebratedaablishasuitablewaytotribute。

◇Ifparentswahatthemooartyandguaraallisaboveboard，theelephoorbariablishwiththemwhatisbeingtributed。

◇Itiswisetolimitanyfinantributionsa（daughterorsohisinadvance。

&salsosetuparraopaytheestablishmehepho，orasktheirdaughterorsooeaintr。

■InformalParties

Ifyourtstothrowaninformalpartyforhisherfriends，youwillprobablyfindyourselfdeeplyinvolved。Yourchildmaywellstilllivewithyou（sohisherhomeisyourhome），or—evenifhesheisawayatuc。—maystillregardthefamilyhomeashisherpersoy。

Inanidealworld，youshayinael，club，baretc。）;butihisisaionwhioteveryoneafford。Ifyoudofeelobligedtoofferyourhome，takesomesimplepres:

◇Ifatallpossible，makethegardenthefocusofactivities（badhosewithwihdays）。

◇Removeallvaluableorbreakableitems，rollbackcarpets，orwithsorcarpetoffcuts。Drapelight-coloredupholsterywiththrows（oreves）。

&ainrooms（e。g。yourbedroomorstudy）off-limits。Putarysignonthedoor，andlockitifatallpossible。Ifyou’tlockthedaheavyitemoffurofit—itwillatleastactasadisiive。

◇Supplythedrink，oratleastsupervisethepurgofit。Stieandbeer—nospirits，ahalfruitpueeinnocuousbutareextremelystrong，withpredictableresults。。。）。

◇Provideplentyofstodgyfood—rice，breadaoes，orpastasaladsareallidealwaysofsoakingupthealcohol。

◇Imposeacurfew—i。e。aimewheopsasdepart。Thenwarntheneighbors。。。

◇Ifyou’vegooutforatleastpartoftheevening;ingpartyhostisgoingtoappreciatethespecterofhisheranxiousparentsinthebad。Butdon’tstrayfarfromhome;you’llobeonhandifthere’sanemergencyoradisputewithneighbors。

■FormalParties

Somefamilieschoosetocelebratean18thor21stwithamoreformalcelebration，suchasamarqueepartyorainahiredvesshouldalwayscheckwiththeirdaughterorsonthatthisiswhattheyge，ratherthanusingitasaoindulgeiionstheywouldlike。Forsome18-or21-year-oldstheideaofsuchlavishattentionmayonlybarrassmentorpossiblerese。

If，heformalpartyistheorderoftheday，thencarefulplanning，iandanizationofallfamilymembersisimportasshouldlistentothewisheshterorsohepartyisasuccessforeveryone。