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●Getting Engaged（第1页）

●GettingEngaged

&ingengagedisoromantidhappytimesofyourlife。Whetheryouhavebeengforafewyearsorjustafewweeks，youarejointlymakingbothapublidpersonalemarriedaherestofyourlivestogether。

Ifyouwishtobesensitiveaoyourfamilies’feelings，alittleetiquettemaywellpreventanyhurtfeelings，particularlyifohyourparentsmayendupfootingthebillfday!Ifyouthinkthatyourdetogeteeasashocktoyourparents，youshoulddiscussyouriionswiththematanopportubefanypubliehenhaveanopportuheirsandtodiscusswithyouboththeimplisofyourde。Youwillalsohaveacetoreassurethemthatyourrelationshipisreadyforthismomentousstepinyourlives。

Iftheewillnotbeashocktotheparents，itisaryforthemantoaskthelady’sfatherforherhandihoughitistraditionalforthemantoseekpermissionfromhisfuturefather-in-lawbef，mostmentodayproposefirstandthen，asamarkofrespeission。

Tomanymodernpeople，seekingpermissionmayseemoldfashionedandinappropriatetoday。Butitisstillseefulaure。Ifthemanlivessomedistanceawayheshouldtelephoetohisfuturefather-in-law。

Mostpareremendouslyfortheir’swelfare，whatevertheirages，andtheywouldweledisgsuimportantdewithyou。Theywillthenbeassuredthattheirdaughterwillbewell-caredforandyourdewillbeseenasbeingmaderespoingyourparentson-boardatthistimeshouldmaketherestofthelanningmuchsimpleraressful。

■TheMarriageProposal

&ionalwayofmakingamarriageproposalwasforthemantomakehisappealtohisbride-to-beoodaythough，menusuallyoptforsomethingalittlelessspectadinmaissimplyagreedbymutualt。However，yourproposalwillremainamemorableandspetforeveranditiswthetimetothinkofawaythatiseitheruniqueandorromantic。Itcouldbethatyouareproposedtooveraromantidlelitdiwoorthequestionjustpoppedoutiqueueatthesupermarket!It’suptoyoutodecidebutitisworthgartnerredrovideyoubothymemoryiure。Havingsaidallthis，youstill’tbeatabitofgoodold-fashioioingdownononeknee!

Inthesedaysofsexualequalitymaakiiveandproposingtotheirmeainly，onFebruary29theachleapyear，therearealwaysmanymediareportsofwomentakingadvahearaditionbymakingthemarriageproposal。（Thereisawell-knowntraditionintheUKassociatedwith29thFebruary，introduyturiesago。Womenareallowedtobreakwithtraditionaheirboy-friendsonthisday。）

Howeveryoudecidetopropose，thewordsthatstillremainmostpopulararesimply“willyoumarryme?”

■AnnoungYement

Youshouldbekeeyourfamilymembers，relativesandfriendsknementiftheyareawareofyourde。Itisuptoyouwhetheryoudothisbytelephorsimplylettingthe“grape-vihework。Dependinguponhoreadyourfamilyandfriendsare，youmaywishtosideraheloationalneers。Aformalpressausuallytakesthefollowingform:

Alessformalacouldread:

Itisaryfirl’sfathertoberesponsiblefandpayingforthepublientsifthegirl’spareihingnuptials。However，beforetheaissubmittedforpubli，hergroom-to-be’sparentsshouldbeshowntheaheirapproval。

&hofEs

Althoughehsvaryenormously，dependinguponces，itisusualfagemeolastbetween6and18mohihansixmonthswillprobablynotalloweeatraditiohalltheusualtrimmings。

■gYementRing

Itistraditionalforthemantogivehisbride-to-bearingasavisiblesignoftheirloveahal。Usuallyaringisadressring，thatis，aringwithagemstwithonediamond，knownasadiamondsolitaire，isstillthemostpopularchoice。Aswellaslookingstunning，diamosubstahandithassihturysymbthay。However，couplesareinglyoptingforsomethiandareingemstohpredsemipretheirringtoaddadditionalsignifice。

Deabudgetbefosh。Thatwayyouwillbeabletotratesthatyoufortablyafford。Butdoalwaysrememberthatyementringsymbolizesyourloveaoeachother，thevalueofwhichshouldnotbemeasuredbythering’sprice。

Mao-beliketogiveapreseomarktheirspecialo。Popularideasfiftincludeagold，ks，sigring，oratiepinorclip。

■WeariRing

Youshouldtraditioheerihirdfingerofyourlefthand（thefioyourlittlefiwlyheldbeliefsofthistradition，althoughthereisnopreciseevidesi，datingbacktothe17thtury，isthatduringaweddiarrivedatthefer（gthethumb）aftertougthethreefihelefthand“。。。iheFather，theSonandtheHolyGhost”。Thesedbeliefreferstoaianmyththattheringfingerfollowstheveiruheheart。

&s’Meeting

&heeisaisaryfroom-to-be’smothertowritetoherfuturein-lawsexpressithegoodosuggestadateahsidestogettogether。Hostedbythegroom-to-be’spareingcouldtaketheformofdinner，lunchoraweekendstay。

Suchameetingwouldbeaunityforthemtoshareinyourhappinessinarelaxed，soviro，aonthearetedwithters!Alternatively，ifyouareplanningtohaveayasofparentsliveasiderabledistahenthiscouldbethevehemtomeet，althoughitwillimateaasaprivatemeeting。

&i

Mostcouplescelebratetheirehsomeformofpartyforfamilyandfriends，whichistraditionallyhostedbythebride-to-be’sparents。Youmaychoepartyorhaveasmallgatherieveryoude，itisaryforthebride-to-be’sfathertomakeashortinformalspeechfollowedbyatoasttothehappycouple。Alternatively，youmayjustrivatedihetwoofyouorjetoffandspeingandromanticholidaytogether。Thechoiceisyours。

■gement

Itisalwaysbesttocalloffahahamarriagethatwillotwork，evenifitisattheeleventhhour。

Someuestswillalmostlybringyougiftsifyouholday。Therefore，youshouldkeeparecordofwhogivesyouwhatsothatyouareabletoreturheeventyoucallement。Withregardt，thereisnohardandfastruleaboutitsreturn。Ifthewomaheewouldbereasonableforhertback。However，thewomaokeepwhatwasinallyagift。

Ifyoucallementafterweddinginvitatio，youshouldsendaprioalltheissimplystatingthefollowing:

&edoesnotrequireaionastowhytheehasbeencalledoff。Anygiftsthathavebeenreceivedshouldbereturned。